Setting healthy boundaries is a hard task for most of us, yet, it’s so important to have a good life, with spiritual, emotional, mental and physical health. Some may not be able to set boundaries at all, while others may have such tough boundaries that keep others away, this is why we should thrive for creating healthy boundaries, with self-respect, self-love, kindness and compassion. Setting boundaries will not only protect us but also show others how we wish to be treated and what are the limits. Making clear what are each one's roles and expectations in a specific relationship, personal or working one, thus bringing you peace of mind.
Having the right boundaries in place can help you have more time for yourself and being present for other situations that matter, this often implies saying no to other things that are not that important for you and most likely not even your responsibility. This process requires some degree of reflection to understand what your priorities and intentions are in all areas of your life, honouring your needs and worrying less about what others expect of you. This will leave you feeling happier with yourself and more capable of helping others when needed, because there will be less frustration, resentment and anger in your life, but more loving, supporting relationships.
If you are beginning this journey, beware that it will take time, people that know you will notice the change of the dynamic and may find it strange at first and there will be an adjusting period. Also, communication is key, be clear about what you need and why, for example, if you have family members that you love but it’s kind of toxic and you can’t deal with them without being prepared and in the right mood. They often show up unannounced to dump all their problems leaving you feeling drained and overwhelmed. You can say that they should send a message first, to know if you are available because you may be having your own life challenges or simply because you may be busy with other things. If those other things are self-care or just being alone, don’t feel guilty about it.
A relationship is a two-way street, it should be a win-win situation, mutual respect and support. The people in your life that respect and love you, will surely adjust and make an effort to respect your boundaries. There could be some resistance or setbacks but you just need to stay firm knowing that this is the best for everyone and repeat your boundaries if necessary.
There are some crystals that can help you on this journey:
Moonstone is the stone of the beginnings and is connected to the moon and intuition, facilitating self-expression. And it is also very powerful in calming emotions and it helps to release the stress that you may experience while setting your boundaries.
Labradorite is a highly mystical stone that deflects unwanted energies, it also banishes fears and insecurities, which is great for when you need to be confident in putting boundaries in place. Furthermore, Labradorite is an excellent companion through change by providing strength and perseverance.
Black Obsidian helps with realizing your true self while exploring your deep subconscious mind, which is great to understand what should be your boundaries. Obsidian is also extremely protective, repelling negative thoughts while providing support during times of change.